May 19, 2004
loses confidence with boss, move
current boss asked me to move from the East Coast to the
West Coast so he could mentor me and accelerate my career.
I was clear that such a move was disruptive for me, financially
and personally. However, I accepted with the commitment
that the same hiring executive with whom I had wanted
to work would personally conduct my mentoring. After only
a few weeks into the new and exciting position, my mentor
broke his promise. The "boss" has decided to
relocate to Asia, asking me to move yet again. He knows
my fiancée, and I agreed to a 3,000-mile separation
for a year or even 18 months, but halfway around the world
was and is out of the question. It's now obvious he knew
before my move West that his own location change was "in
the works" even when I directly asked about the longer-term
commitment to our "mentoring" relationship,
specifically, on the West Coast.
What does this say about integrity? Sign me as dislocated,
abandoned and frustrated. So, now, what do I do?
story is filled with blank spots. And some attention needs
to be given to answering questions related to your own
due diligence, to fill in those blank spots -- in this
instance about both the company and the individual doing
the hiring. However, let's begin with the integrity concern.
The answer to the integrity question is clear: Someone
lied to someone. It appears that at least six of what
we at the Bracher Center call the "Eight Attributes"
of integrity have been violated. Here are three examples:
Unless or until these and other issues are addressed,
you're in a situation that appears to lack integrity and
could lead to further career frustration, emotional pain
and understandable self-blame and further disappointment.
Once you've gained what you need from your current organization,
or if they fail to fulfill promises made to "make
things right" professionally and personally, then
bid them farewell. Make notes regarding better questions
to ask before you take the next move. Then, say goodbye
to this organization.